Over the last decade, low self-esteem for children and teenagers is growing extremely fast. If you are like most parents, what you want more for your kids is self-confidence. They will tell you that academic and athletic come 2nd on their wish list. Without self-confidence, it is extremely hard for children and teenagers to achieve any goals, resist peer pressure and deal with adversity. Ultimately, without confianza en si mismo, it will affect their overall happiness and career success directly.
How can you help? The most important part of your job as a parent is to provide love and affection every day. All children and teenagers will benefit as they feel love by their parents. It is important that you realize that love and affection alone it is not enough to build their self-confidence. They need two more ingredients to help them achieve self-confidence. They need People Skills and Character.
A lot of people think that either you have people skill, or you dont. That could not be further from the truth. If you did a survey and interviewed people with an without skills, you would find that the main difference is the way they were raised. People skill is certainly tough to learn if you dont learn it at a young age. That is why you should start with your children as soon as you can. Start with the basic technique. Teach them how to greet people, to look people in the eyes. When they become a teenager, you should add a firm handshake to what they should do. Teaching them how to listen well and not to be afraid to ask questions will also be a good for them. There have been many studies done that show people skills represent 75% of their success vs. 25% is technical knowledge. Dont diminish the importance of your children learning math, read and writing but the emphasizing on their people skills will go a long way towards their overall happiness and career success.
Developing character is an incredibly hard thing to do. It takes a lot of commitment to teaching it, be accountable for it. This is the second item your children and teenagers will need in life. Start as young as you can to teach them about integrity. Being honest can only bring good things for them. Teach how to behave in todays society. What is accepted and what is not. Knowing that will help them both on a personal level and later in life, on a professional level.
Why is it that more and more children and teenagers lack people skills and character today? It is mainly due to 3 areas. Today's technology, the pop culture, and academics emphasis are the main reasons. The technology today, having access to emails, text messaging, cell phones, video games create a void in personal human contact which you can only improve by meeting people face to face. If you look at movies, cartoons, music videos and how it affects our children and teenagers, you will understand why it is another reason why people lack people skills. With the rude gestures and expressions use today. It teaches our kids to behave the same way. It makes our jobs as parents much harder. Also, in today schools system, the emphasis in on academics. They o not believe people skills and character are priorities, and therefore they do not focus on it.
There are many thigs you can do to help your children and teenagers to build their people skills and character. You should emphasize the importance of people skills before they interact with others. It could be on the way to school, to visit family or friends, etc. Re-emphasizing greeting, eye contact, and a firm handshake every time. Next, be a good role model. Remember, your children are always watching and listening so you should always act the part. Last, look for third party help, children, especially teenagers can tune you out so if you can find material, books, CDs, DVDs, that way they can teach themselves as they become an adult.
Todays generation is not learning people skills or character development. We do not hesitate to get help for our children for any other subject. So lets remember what will ultimately help our children and priorities correctly, so our kids and teenagers never suffer from low self-esteem.
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